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I didn’t build this site because I had everything figured out.
I built it because I didn’t.

And I still don’t but I am learning every day.

Because I was scared.
Because I didn’t know where to turn.
Because I was trying to survive — and I realized how impossible that felt when you’re doing it alone, in silence, in fear.

This site is for women (or men) navigating abuse, control, confusion, and the long, painful road toward freedom. It is written from the standpoint of what I have experienced within the Canadian system. Whether you’re still living with him, thinking about leaving, already gone but still haunted, or just trying to figure out what the hell is happening in your life — this space is for you.

I’ve lived it. I’m still living parts of it. And because I have children a part of me will always live it.

I was lucky and have connected with some amazing resources, support and women who without I honestly do not know where I would be right now.

I’ve been gaslit, controlled, screamed at, blamed. I’ve been called the abuser. I’ve been told I was crazy. And for a while, I started to believe it. I know what it feels like to lose your sense of self. I know what it is like to watch mugs of hot coffee smash on walls behind your head and I know what it is like to suffer assault at the hands of someone who you had trusted the most to keep you safe and protect you. To sit at my dying father’s bedside making a safety plan because it’s the only moment I felt a sliver of clarity, when I could breathe enough to realise that I had to stop this. To feel guilt for staying, shame for leaving, and a total terror of the idea of doing both.

I built this site because when I was Googling how to leave, when I was sobbing on on my sister, when I was fighting legal battles (and still am) I didn’t understand with a broken heart and terrified children — I couldn’t find what I needed. I had no idea where to start and I was totally overwhelmed. I wanted one place where everything was gathered: safety planning, digital security, legal navigation, financial survival, healing tools, emotional support, and real stories from women who got out.

So I made it. For you. For us.

This isn’t a legal advice site. I’m not a lawyer, therapist, or police officer. I’m just someone who’s walked through some fire — and still am. I’m healing. I’m still triggered. I still cry. I still rise. But I have got this!

If this site can be a lifeline for even one woman who doesn’t know where to start — then that’s enough.

You’re not crazy.
You’re not weak.
You’re not alone.

You are surviving. You are powerful. You are allowed to get out.
And when you’re ready — I am here.

We got this!

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