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Navigating Lifequakes: Rebuilding After the Shocks That Split Your World
“Sometimes in the waves of change, we find our true direction.”— Unknown 🌍Some events don’t just shake your life—they rip it wide open. Author and life transitions expert Bruce Feiler, in his book Life Is in the Transitions, coined the term “lifequakes”—profound, destabilizing events that split your life into before and after. But if you’ve…
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There Is No Compromise on Child Safety: Why I said NO
Today, I was asked to trade my son for a piece of paper. Let me be more specific: my lawyer forwarded a message suggesting I should agree to give my ex-husband—who is currently facing criminal charges for child abuse, threats of death, and threats involving bodily harm—unrestricted access to our son every other weekend. In…
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He used Everything : My Story of Coercive Control
When I first made my police statement in January 2024, coercive control wasn’t even recognized as a standalone criminal offence in Canada. I shared everything I could about the abuse, the threats, the sexual assault. I thought I was telling the whole story. But in June 2024, Canada passed Bill C-332. Finally, coercive and controlling…
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When Consent Isn’t Protection:
A Mother’s Fight to Let Her Child Fly You’d think it would be simple. A 16-year-old with a big heart and bigger dreams wants to join her classmates on a school-organized humanitarian trip.The trip is paid for. The itinerary is set. She’s ready. Excited. Prepared. But when you’ve escaped abuse, when you’re raising children under…
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Breaking Down and Moving On
Buying My Own Car (Finally) Some women mark milestones with flowers or jewelry. Me? I will be marking mine with a new (to me) car. Not because I wanted to. Because life forced me to. Let me take you back a few months: I was driving my faithful-but-fragile 2003 Mercedes. She was old, tired, and…
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What I Wish I had Known Before Reporting Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence
When I reported the my abusor, he was charged with sexual assault. But that was just a single sliver of the truth. It didn’t include the years of emotional torment, verbal degradation, financial control, psychological manipulation, technological surveillance, or the coercive control that ruled my life. And what still breaks me today is this: I…
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Tech Troubles, Triggers, and Taking Control: A Survivor’s Journey
When you have survived abuse – technology isn’t neutral and can cause reoccurring trauma long after the abuse itself has stopped.It’s not just phones and apps and passwords—it’s the memory of being tracked. Controlled. Hacked. Watched. Silenced. It’s the anxiety that spikes when your screen lights up at midnight. It’s the sick feeling in your…
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🕯️ “Why Can’t I Remember Everything?” – The Lingering Fog of Gaslighting
You remember the fights.The apologies.The silences that screamed louder than words. You remember the way your stomach dropped at a certain look. The way you rehearsed your sentences in your head before speaking.You remember crying alone— and then wiping your face so no one would ask questions. But when you try to piece it all…
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Financial Abuse
The Hidden Chains of Control I know when I first thought about abuse I used to go think of bruises and broken bones. But abuse comes in many disguises. One of the most silent and invisible forms is financial abuse—and it’s more common than many realize. And can be one of the biggest hurdles to breaking…
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20 Minutes a Day
A simple practice for Healing After Trauma and Abuse When you’ve survived trauma or abuse, healing can feel like an impossible mountain to climb. There are days when just getting out of bed feels like a victory and days when you cannot even do this. So the idea of rebuilding yourself may seem overwhelming —…
