Tag: life

  • From Healing to the Battlefield: A Litigation Plan is Being Born

    A year ago, six months after my husband was arrested, I was barely functioning, lost in a fog of trauma and PTSD, struggling to make it through each day. But in the past year, I’ve found my fire again. Through therapy, self-reflection, and the unwavering support of incredible women and men in my life, I’ve…

  • Justice Feels Unjust: Paper Doesn’t Protect People

    ✎ Legal Reflection: When Justice Feels Like a Pinky Promise I live at the end of a dead-end road. On paper, that might sound peaceful. In reality, it’s isolating — especially when your closest neighbours are the surety for your abusive ex’s bail. Yes. The people vouching for his release are the people living closest…

  • The Only Safety I Have Is Printed on a Piece of Paper

    It was supposed to be a simple, happy day.Three kids in the car, music playing, the kind of morning where you’re juggling drop-offs and plans. We were heading to drop one child at work, then the rest of us were going to the mall for a day out — shopping, wandering, and treating ourselves to…

  • The Post-Victory Crash: Why Wins Can Trigger Old Wounds— and How to Fight Back

    This week, I won.I walked into court and secured something huge: permission for my daughter to travel internationally in just a few days’ time, despite my ex-husband’s refusal and my lawyer’s betrayal. The judge not only granted the emergency travel order — he also adjourned my ex’s motion for visitation with our son until all…

  • Betrayal on the Frontline: Outgunned, Outnumbered, But Not Outplayed

    When Your Own Lawyer Becomes a Liability in the War of Divorce Divorcing a narcissistic abuser isn’t a simple legal process.It’s trench warfare.It’s sabotage of your supply lines.It’s enemy infiltration — sometimes within your own ranks. The stakes? Your children.The battleground? Family court.The weapons? Evidence, motions, orders, and the ability to stay calm under relentless…

  • Navigating Lifequakes: Rebuilding After the Shocks That Split Your World

    “Sometimes in the waves of change, we find our true direction.”— Unknown 🌍Some events don’t just shake your life—they rip it wide open. Author and life transitions expert Bruce Feiler, in his book Life Is in the Transitions, coined the term “lifequakes”—profound, destabilizing events that split your life into before and after. But if you’ve…

  • There Is No Compromise on Child Safety: Why I said NO

    Today, I was asked to trade my son for a piece of paper. Let me be more specific: my lawyer forwarded a message suggesting I should agree to give my ex-husband—who is currently facing criminal charges for child abuse, threats of death, and threats involving bodily harm—unrestricted access to our son every other weekend. In…

  • Breaking Down and Moving On

    Buying My Own Car (Finally) Some women mark milestones with flowers or jewelry. Me? I will be marking mine with a new (to me) car. Not because I wanted to. Because life forced me to. Let me take you back a few months: I was driving my faithful-but-fragile 2003 Mercedes. She was old, tired, and…

  • Tech Troubles, Triggers, and Taking Control: A Survivor’s Journey

    When you have survived abuse – technology isn’t neutral and can cause reoccurring trauma long after the abuse itself has stopped.It’s not just phones and apps and passwords—it’s the memory of being tracked. Controlled. Hacked. Watched. Silenced. It’s the anxiety that spikes when your screen lights up at midnight. It’s the sick feeling in your…

  • 🧳 How to Build a Safety Plan — Even If You’re Still Living With Them

    You don’t have to leave today. But you do need a plan. I didn’t have a safety plan when I left. My hand was forced when the police got involved after a night that could have turned much darker. I was lucky — if you can call that kind of trauma luck. He was arrested,…