Tag: mental-health

  • The Pause is Not the End

    Court is paused.There is a continuance. That sounds heavy. It sounds ominous. It sounds like something to fear. But strangely—unexpectedly—I am calm. I can’t share my testimony. I won’t. Not because I’m hiding anything, but because the process matters, and the court is paused, not finished. What I can share is what it feels like…

  • If I Could Love That Hard in the Wrong Place

    “To love at all is to be vulnerable.”— C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves I’ve looked back at it now—really looked.At how bad it was.At the different forms it took, the different ways it showed up. Some of the things are easy to name. You can see it when a mug smashes into the wall behind…

  • The Comfort Zone Isn’t Comfort — It’s Survival

    My brain was never designed for happiness.It was designed for survival. That’s why I still scan rooms.Why I choose corners when I can.Why I sit with my back to the wall. It’s why I still park my car facing down the driveway, angled away from the house — ready for a quick escape. Those instincts…

  • Living Between Sunrises and Bedtime Stories

    The Rhythm of Dark Mornings and Ordinary Days I get up for work in the dark now. It has become my normal. There is something comforting about being alone in a warm, quiet house before the world stirs. The darkness and I have spent enough time together through years of insomnia that we feel like…

  • When a Family Court Judge Invited My Rapist to Amend His Criminal Bail Conditions : How the System Betrayed Every Survivor

    How a family-court recommendation tried to erase my bail protections and forced me to relive the trauma the criminal system was meant to prevent. Many of you know from my previous posts that I am involved in ongoing court matters. My own criminal case goes to trial early next year, and two of my children…

  • Heading in the Right Direction: Fixing a Broken System, One Reform at a Time

    When Prime Minister Mark Carney announced sweeping bail and sentencing reforms on 16th October, it felt—for the first time in a long time—like the Canadian justice system might finally be listening. For years, survivors of domestic violence, coercive control, and sexual assault have lived in fear while their abusers walked free under promises that were…

  • Institutional Complicity and Systemic Harm: Silence Is Not Neutral

    This week I have been on a mission.I have witnessed too much abuse, too many people turning blind eyes, saying nothing because they “don’t want to get involved.” Because they “don’t want to take sides.” But here is the truth:If you don’t choose a side, you have already chosen his.Silence is not neutral. Silence condones.When…

  • Strap In and Buckle Up: I Am on the Rollercoaster of Law

     A relentless ride of injustice and abuse — and there’s no way off. It has been a week. I was served with an “emergency” motion in family court with only three days’ notice. To make it worse, it was filed in such a way that my lawyer had just ten minutes to respond if…

  • When the Court System Finally Tilted My Way – for once.

    It has been a week. I was served with an “emergency” motion in family court with only three days’ notice. To make it worse, it was filed in such a way that my lawyer had just ten minutes to respond if we wanted even the chance of an adjournment. We scrambled and filed in eighteen…

  • One Hour for a Lifetime of Security

    How making my will gave me peace of mind and protection for my kids Today, I checked off one of the biggest items on my bucket list: I made my will. This isn’t about giving up, and it isn’t about dark thoughts. (I know I wrote recently about suicidal thoughts, but this is not that.)…