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The Post-Victory Crash: Why Wins Can Trigger Old Wounds— and How to Fight Back
This week, I won.I walked into court and secured something huge: permission for my daughter to travel internationally in just a few days’ time, despite my ex-husband’s refusal and my lawyer’s betrayal. The judge not only granted the emergency travel order — he also adjourned my ex’s motion for visitation with our son until all…
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Betrayal on the Frontline: Outgunned, Outnumbered, But Not Outplayed
When Your Own Lawyer Becomes a Liability in the War of Divorce Divorcing a narcissistic abuser isn’t a simple legal process.It’s trench warfare.It’s sabotage of your supply lines.It’s enemy infiltration — sometimes within your own ranks. The stakes? Your children.The battleground? Family court.The weapons? Evidence, motions, orders, and the ability to stay calm under relentless…
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Navigating Lifequakes: Rebuilding After the Shocks That Split Your World
“Sometimes in the waves of change, we find our true direction.”— Unknown 🌍Some events don’t just shake your life—they rip it wide open. Author and life transitions expert Bruce Feiler, in his book Life Is in the Transitions, coined the term “lifequakes”—profound, destabilizing events that split your life into before and after. But if you’ve…
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There Is No Compromise on Child Safety: Why I said NO
Today, I was asked to trade my son for a piece of paper. Let me be more specific: my lawyer forwarded a message suggesting I should agree to give my ex-husband—who is currently facing criminal charges for child abuse, threats of death, and threats involving bodily harm—unrestricted access to our son every other weekend. In…
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He used Everything : My Story of Coercive Control
When I first made my police statement in January 2024, coercive control wasn’t even recognized as a standalone criminal offence in Canada. I shared everything I could about the abuse, the threats, the sexual assault. I thought I was telling the whole story. But in June 2024, Canada passed Bill C-332. Finally, coercive and controlling…
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What I Wish I had Known Before Reporting Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence
When I reported the my abusor, he was charged with sexual assault. But that was just a single sliver of the truth. It didn’t include the years of emotional torment, verbal degradation, financial control, psychological manipulation, technological surveillance, or the coercive control that ruled my life. And what still breaks me today is this: I…
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Tech Troubles, Triggers, and Taking Control: A Survivor’s Journey
When you have survived abuse – technology isn’t neutral and can cause reoccurring trauma long after the abuse itself has stopped.It’s not just phones and apps and passwords—it’s the memory of being tracked. Controlled. Hacked. Watched. Silenced. It’s the anxiety that spikes when your screen lights up at midnight. It’s the sick feeling in your…
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🕯️ “Why Can’t I Remember Everything?” – The Lingering Fog of Gaslighting
You remember the fights.The apologies.The silences that screamed louder than words. You remember the way your stomach dropped at a certain look. The way you rehearsed your sentences in your head before speaking.You remember crying alone— and then wiping your face so no one would ask questions. But when you try to piece it all…
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The Breaking Point – When Survival Becomes a Decision
People think the breaking point is loud. Dramatic. A suitcase thrown into a car, a door slammed, a final scream echoing down a hallway. But for most survivors of abuse, it’s much quieter. My breaking point came not during the worst fight. Not when I was hit or humiliated or gaslit into silence. It came…
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The Narcissist: A Different Breed of Abuser
The Abuse You Never See Coming Not all abuse leaves bruises. Some abusers don’t scream, punch, or push.They smile.They charm.They manipulate you into believing you are the problem.And by the time you realize what’s happening, you’re already emotionally bruised, mentally shattered, and questioning your entire reality. The abuse may stay like this or it may…
