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When a Family Court Judge Invited My Rapist to Amend His Criminal Bail Conditions : How the System Betrayed Every Survivor
How a family-court recommendation tried to erase my bail protections and forced me to relive the trauma the criminal system was meant to prevent. Many of you know from my previous posts that I am involved in ongoing court matters. My own criminal case goes to trial early next year, and two of my children…
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Heading in the Right Direction: Fixing a Broken System, One Reform at a Time
When Prime Minister Mark Carney announced sweeping bail and sentencing reforms on 16th October, it felt—for the first time in a long time—like the Canadian justice system might finally be listening. For years, survivors of domestic violence, coercive control, and sexual assault have lived in fear while their abusers walked free under promises that were…
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Institutional Complicity and Systemic Harm: Silence Is Not Neutral
This week I have been on a mission.I have witnessed too much abuse, too many people turning blind eyes, saying nothing because they “don’t want to get involved.” Because they “don’t want to take sides.” But here is the truth:If you don’t choose a side, you have already chosen his.Silence is not neutral. Silence condones.When…
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One Battle Won – The War Rages On
Before: Walking Into Hell — After: Truth, Laughter, and a Mic Drop The Docket Tells the Truth – Before Today was another reminder of how broken and disconnected the system can be. This morning, there was still no online confirmation that my emergency motion was before the court. Nothing on the portal. Nothing my lawyer…
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Navigating the Justice System: A Maze Without a Map
I never realized how impossible it is to navigate the justice system until I was thrown into it myself. You would think there would be one place to go for answers, or at least a central point of information, but that simply isn’t the case. Instead, the justice system is a patchwork of different departments,…
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The Only Safety I Have Is Printed on a Piece of Paper
It was supposed to be a simple, happy day.Three kids in the car, music playing, the kind of morning where you’re juggling drop-offs and plans. We were heading to drop one child at work, then the rest of us were going to the mall for a day out — shopping, wandering, and treating ourselves to…
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He used Everything : My Story of Coercive Control
When I first made my police statement in January 2024, coercive control wasn’t even recognized as a standalone criminal offence in Canada. I shared everything I could about the abuse, the threats, the sexual assault. I thought I was telling the whole story. But in June 2024, Canada passed Bill C-332. Finally, coercive and controlling…
