Month: August 2025

  • Ready Isn’t a Feeling It is a Decision

    I read something the other day that’s been echoing in my mind ever since: “You’ll never feel ready because ready isn’t a feeling, it’s a decision.” It hit me because it’s true in ways I wish I’d known years ago. For so long, I thought I had to feel ready before I could act. I…

  • Marshmallows, Meteor Showers, and Memories

    In just one day, we’ll be loading up the car (and probably overstuffing it) for our annual camping trip. Last year, we spent two nights and three days on beautiful Manitoulin Island with a friend and some of her kids. The weather was perfect, and every day was full of laughter. We hiked to hidden…

  • From French Vanilla to Financial Freedom: Investing After Financial Abuse

    💸 Even If You’re Starting with $10, a Broken Heart and Nothing Left I don’t have a pension. Not because I didn’t work — I did.I raised kids. I managed a household. I helped build businesses from the ground up..But I wasn’t the one with the paycheque. That was by design. And when it all…

  • Invisible Strings: What Still Connects Us After We’ve Broken Free

    A personal reflection on survival, trauma, and reclaiming connection Have you ever felt like something — or someone — is still quietly connected to you, even if they’re no longer in your life? Maybe you’ve heard of the Invisible String Theory — the belief that people who are destined to meet, help, or love each…

  • From Healing to the Battlefield: A Litigation Plan is Being Born

    A year ago, six months after my husband was arrested, I was barely functioning, lost in a fog of trauma and PTSD, struggling to make it through each day. But in the past year, I’ve found my fire again. Through therapy, self-reflection, and the unwavering support of incredible women and men in my life, I’ve…

  • Justice Feels Unjust: Paper Doesn’t Protect People

    ✎ Legal Reflection: When Justice Feels Like a Pinky Promise I live at the end of a dead-end road. On paper, that might sound peaceful. In reality, it’s isolating — especially when your closest neighbours are the surety for your abusive ex’s bail. Yes. The people vouching for his release are the people living closest…

  • The Only Safety I Have Is Printed on a Piece of Paper

    It was supposed to be a simple, happy day.Three kids in the car, music playing, the kind of morning where you’re juggling drop-offs and plans. We were heading to drop one child at work, then the rest of us were going to the mall for a day out — shopping, wandering, and treating ourselves to…

  • The Post-Victory Crash: Why Wins Can Trigger Old Wounds— and How to Fight Back

    This week, I won.I walked into court and secured something huge: permission for my daughter to travel internationally in just a few days’ time, despite my ex-husband’s refusal and my lawyer’s betrayal. The judge not only granted the emergency travel order — he also adjourned my ex’s motion for visitation with our son until all…

  • Betrayal on the Frontline: Outgunned, Outnumbered, But Not Outplayed

    When Your Own Lawyer Becomes a Liability in the War of Divorce Divorcing a narcissistic abuser isn’t a simple legal process.It’s trench warfare.It’s sabotage of your supply lines.It’s enemy infiltration — sometimes within your own ranks. The stakes? Your children.The battleground? Family court.The weapons? Evidence, motions, orders, and the ability to stay calm under relentless…